Rachel Dolezal is a Hero

Hey everyone! Happy Hump Day! Usually, I like to keep my blog fairly light and free of controversy, however, I thought I’d make an exception. I’m sure we’ve all heard of Rachel Dolezal, the woman who spent the last few years of her life pretending to be black.There were many people who spoke out against […]

Random Thoughts

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Life is funny, isn't it? Just when you think you've got it all figure out, just when you finally begin to plan something, get excited abut it and feel like you know what direction you're heading in, the paths change. The signs change. The wind blows the other way. North is suddenly south and east is west and you're... LOST.

Lately, I find that life has been a lot harsher than usual. And normally, in my life anyway, when things are low, it’s time to start preparing for them to get worse, dramatically worse. (Checking account overdrawn worse.) The worst part of having these struggles is my age. Many people wish they could reverse the hands of time and go back to life in their 20’s. To those people, I say, be careful what you wish for, because there is nothing more unstable in life than being in your twenty’s.

Apparently, I am not the only person who feels this way. J. N. Salters, a contributor to HuffingtonPost.com, wrote an article describing the very woes that come along with enduring this decade of life. In the article titled, “My 20’s Weren’t Supposed to be Like This: Getting Through the Quarter-Life Crisis”, she explains not having achieved the many goals she once scribbled down on a piece of paper that she expected to achieve by the time she was 21. Now, we all have those lists! I have one in my wallet that I take with me everywhere! The problem with these lists, one might ask? They set ridiculously high expectations and are unbelievably unrealistic, given the time frame we plan to accomplish these goals. For example, one of the goals on my list is to win an Oscar and have three kids by the time I’m 34. Now this may not be impossible, but I can admit I may be setting myself up for failure here.

What I loved about her piece is that Salters relates to the many things that twenty-something year olds’ struggle with on a daily basis; job hunting, rent, meeting your parents’ expectations as well as your own, and feeling as if you’ve failed when you haven’t accomplished any of those expectations. One thing I can definitely relate to is not feeling prepared upon entering my twenty’s, mainly because we are all so excited to get there that we’re not sure what to expect once we do. And now that we’re here, we’re unsure of where to go from here. Uncertainty and self-doubt are like a storm cloud following our every move.

The silver lining to this cloud is that we will inevitably get older and wiser and learn to make better decisions for ourselves. The advice that  I try to give myself as well as my friends is to stay positive. No matter how bad things can get, we have years of recovering ahead of us. Eventually our dream careers, the weddings, and the children will all come. We just have to slow down and enjoy the ride and know that one day, we will finally get off the roller coaster that is our twenty’s.

What I Would Tell My 20-Something Self

The Struggles of a 20-Something Year Old

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jn-salters/quarterlife-crisis-is-tha_b_5072177.html Lately, I find that life has been a lot harsher than usual. And normally, in my life anyway, when things are low, it’s time to start preparing for them to get worse, dramatically worse. (Checking account overdrawn worse.) The worst part of having these struggles is my age. Many people wish they could reverse […]

New Year, New Opportunities:One Month Down, Eleven More To Go

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Let’s face it, absolutely everyone breaks their new years resolution. Whether it be a month later or even three days after the ball drops, somewhere down the line, we’ve all given up on the things we set out to accomplish in the new year. But what if, for a change, we all decided to stick to our guns and achieve those goals we felt were necessary to make in the first place. Now it doesn’t have to be as exciting as taking a trip to an unknown place. It can be as simple as adding an extra hundred from your paycheck to your savings account for that car you always wanted.

As we get closer to the end of January, it seems all hope may be lost for those of us that still haven’t worked toward our resolutions. But alas! We still have eleven months to make that transformation! And what better time to start than right at this very moment?

Here are 9 things that were on my resolution list to change for 2014 that may even apply to you:

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  1. Be Bold – Do things for yourself without feeling the need for others to like it.
  2. Complete Projects – Finish all things you’ve set out to start, especially those that do not include deadlines (i.e. blog posts, short stories, poems)
  3. Publish Something – It may sound a bit far fetched, but it is possible that someone else may like your quirky writing. Get something published and get your name out there.
  4. Blog More! – For most, this may seem trivial, but blogging takes hard work and commitment. Try your best to keep at it! It’ll all get easier.
  5. Keep in contact with those that wish you well – Always surround yourself with positive people that friendshiplove and support you. They will be your rock and you’ll be theirs through tough times.
  6. Be positive and humble, especially when things are not going as expected – God  won’t push you unless He knows you can handle it. Whatever it is, it’ll only make you stronger.
  7. Share more – be more open about life and your experiences, you never know who may be watching….
  8. Continue to love deeply – Because that is how you are loved.
  9. Gain more confidence and be consistent – You won’t get anywhere in life wishing for things to happen. Get up and take what you want, it’ll be worth it in the end.

Now not all of these things may apply to you, but I sure hope these nine things will inspire you to not only have an incredible year, but to change your life for the better as well.

Until next time…